The Wonders of Portugal: Lisbon and Sintra

At the beginning of April, I took a 9-day trip to Portugal with my dear and long-time friend Katherine.  It was originally her idea;  it was never on my radar and I wasn’t jonesing to go, so she kinda had to persuade me.  The first big wonder: WHY DID I NOT KNOW how marvelous Portugal is?

View from the Tagus River
Arco da Rua Augusta

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Honoring My Daughter’s Parents

Does this title sound strange? Perhaps you are wondering “If she is your daughter, aren’t you her parent?”  Well, [pause] yes and no. It’s a long story.

Her parents, whom I am honoring, are the ones who adopted her when she was an infant and raised her to adulthood. I was the young woman, not yet 19 years old, who birthed her and surrendered her for adoption. After holding her, feeding her, loving her for 5 days in the hospital, I dressed her in a sweater I knitted, rode with her in my arms in a NYC taxi cab, and then handed my baby, surrendered my baby, to a Catholic Charities social worker.

In adoption parlance, they are the A (adoptive) parents and I am the B (birth) mom. We never met but we became connected in this offbeat way.

adoptive parents

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What Would Barbie Do?

Barbie characters
Several years ago, a friend who was getting married for the second time happened to have a fascination with Barbie.  Maybe it was a hobby or a whimsy or a fetish, whatever you call it when an adult collects Barbie stuff.  You know Barbie.  Everyone knows Barbie, the doll that has been around since 1959, Mattell’s weird ideal of the perfect girl/woman that no living female could ever achieve.
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